Yesterday, good ole Facebook memories and my lovely friend Donna Croft, gave me the reminder that it has been a whole year since I started writing this blog. As you know now, the twins (Jessica & Jack) have been around for just over 2 years, but it took me a while to get round to writing about our ‘journey’.
The blog started off as my own journal to look back at in future years, but due to the positive feedback I received from close friends and family, it made sense to go public, warts ‘n’ all and get my story ‘out there’. So that some women (and men) could hopefully gain some confidence to talk about similar issues and also hopefully use my journey as some form of inspiration to confirm that you are not alone and that you must keep fighting for what you want.
Anyway, near enough to the ‘anniversary’ of my blog I received a message that I wanted to share with you. I want to share this partly for my own gratification and partly because it epitomises the reason I started my blog. When I read back that very first entry I had written that the aim of this blog was to:
1. give some hope to women who are struggling to get pregnant
2. talk about my experience of pregnancy (at age 42 and carrying twins there were some challenges)
3. raise awareness about Down Syndrome and how, despite a lot of negative information out there, it is wonderful and rewarding
4. impart insight on life with twins
Well, this message has given me the greatest of pleasures that I have achieved aim no.1, to at least one couple out there. And, it ended with an amazing result…
I have known Janet (I’ve decided to keep her name private although she has, confirmed that I can share her message and story!), for over 30 years now. She is one of my little sisters best friends, and whilst a bit younger than me, I have spent time with her and my sisters other ‘besties’ on holidays and at parties etc. over the years.
Janet had been having fertility issues and after reading my blog, and speaking to my sister, we started to chat about what I had been through and what she was going to embark on to get her dream family. This, of course, was over some period of time. If you have ever had fertility issues and been through any kind of tests etc. you will testify that it takes a long, torturous time, to get through!
Well, I am so happy to share with you all, Janet got her dream family and has recently given birth to her beautiful daughter, Megan (not her daughters real name).
Janet recently sent me this message, which I want to share, to confirm that I had managed to help someone – not get what they were after, but give that hope and positivity for Janet to finally have that baby in her arms.
A little snippet of that message is as follows:
“Hi Manda, I wanted to let you know how incredibly grateful I am for your support throughout my treatment. I want you to know what having you there meant to me. you helped to keep my spirits hight and my head in a positive place and I’m almost certain that contributed to my positive result and subsequently holding this bundle of life in my arms. Megan is wonderful and my love for her has reached a level I didn’t know existed. So, thank you to you Manda for taking the time out to be there for me whilst having twin babies to look after!”.
I cannot tell you what it meant to me that she took time out to write that to me, whilst having a tiny baby to look after. It has given me so much happiness that one person has found my journey helpful and that (albeit it took no time at all for me to be there for her, as I would do for anyone who needed some support), she has that little person in her arms. Of course, I know that Janet did ALL the hard work, and by god I am super proud of her, so please don’t think I feel it is all down to me – far from it! But, I want you to know, yes you who maybe struggling, that there is hope, there is light at the end of the tunnel for some of us. Stay strong and if you need me, want to have a chat, have any questions whatsoever then please drop me a message, and I will get back to you as soon as I can.